be kind to yourself first..

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​Be Kind to yourself Before Others..

Sounds selfish doesn't it, but stay with me and hear me out..

The old me (when I say old I mean the me I was 9 months ago if not sooner). She would go above and beyond for the people. She would remind them of school events, she would send them links for sales, never forget a birthday, always remember everyone on the Christmas card list from last year & she never forgot to help someone or tag them in something they might be interested in. She constantly had others at the forefront of my mind. 

That was until I realized that I was doing everything for everybody and nothing for myself. My well was empty, yet every last drop I had happily given away. I needed to change this pattern. So you guessed it, I sat at home and I cried and I mean I cried really hard. Perhaps I was on my period, I could say the moon phase also had a role to play. I was not pretty but goddess it felt so good to let it out. The confusion and frustration of wanting to help others but not having anything left to give over flowed onto my pillow.

                                       Sometimes you just got to let it out
                                 so you can breathe and start again.
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Then once I had composed myself I needed the universe to guide me on what to do next...

Do I stop planting flowers in the gardens of people who cannot be bothered to water them?
Do I respond to people the same way they respond to me?
Do I change my ways?
Do I find new friends? Again?? 😆
Do I suck it up and realize that not everyone is like me and stop taking it to heart?

And the universe showed me this

I needed to look after myself first. Self care should always be at the forefront of your mind. It's not selfish its self-full. Sometimes this means not going to the party or stay up late. Sometimes it's going to bed early or having a good cry, Sometimes it's not rising to an argument and stepping away. It's not always face masks and bath bombs, but sometimes it deffo is. But once you figure out what it is that you need, the after effect is the same. That feeling of a fresh start, the lightening of your shoulders and that deep calm sigh as you let go and declare you are ready to begin again. 

Firstly you give to yourself, for me this month I spent a lot of time under the blossom trees and at the allotment. Do the things you want, spend time using your energy for you first. Then whatever I had left I could share with others. 

Sometimes we'll have nothing left
Sometimes we'll have a little
Sometimes we'll have a lot. 

That's what you share with your tribe. 

So Goddess make sure your cup is full before you share the overflow with others. 

Oceans of Love

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